A common misconception is that once a man learns he’s HIV-positive, he’ll behave in an unsafe, reckless way—that the damage is done and he no longer has to worry about protecting himself.
In fact, the positive man must protect himself even more, to safeguard his health from pesky ancillary viruses.
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Serosorting is not a guaranteed strategy to prevent HIV transmission, but a lot of guys use it.HIVequal.org: How to Date an HIV-positive Guy offers the ‘rules’ and ‘reactions’ to dating openly in the 21st century in this article chronicling one man’s search for love as an HIV-positive gay man.Out.com: Dating Positively shares one man’s experience dating as an HIV-positive gay man and how he learned to renegotiate his self-worth with confidence after seroconverting.Still, we keep trying and hope the next one will love us for all the reasons the last one didn’t.The good news: As we get older, the image of the man we see standing beside us at the altar starts to take shape. Learning which risks are unavoidable and which are optional is something crucial for us to do when swimming in the dating pool.Here are some articles and websites to help you think about these questions.